It is normal that, with the passage of time, the flame of love goes out. But if we want to turn it back on, the first step is to be able to recognize why sexual desire was blurred.
The loss of sexual desire is a very common problem, usually associated with couples who have been together for several years, although it can also occur in relatively recent courtships. Fortunately, with proper therapeutic support, it is a situation that can be overcome. And in today’s article we will see the reasons for its appearance to be able to recover the passion together or together.
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Why does sexual desire end?
The lack of sexual desire is a problem thatcan have very diverse origins, both physical and emotional, and sometimes the causes of it are usually interrelated. It is, therefore, a complex phenomenon before which each particular case must be examined separately. However, statistically there are a number of common factors that are usually at the basis of its appearance. If you are interested in knowing what are the most common causes to explain the loss of sexual desire in the couple, read on.
1. Routine
It is common for some relationships to enter into routine periods that affect all areas of common coexistence, including sexual relations. The loss of passion in the early years is common in many couples, as well as the lack of innovation, surprise or creativity in intimate relationships, a fact that usually causes a lack of sexual desire in one or both members of this union, also due to the lack of stimuli and incentives.
This loss of desire also generates frustration and discomfort in the couple, which can sometimes jeopardize the relationship itself, due to the gradual physical and emotional distance between both people. It is advisable to introduce new stimulating elements in life as a couple to recover sexual desire, such as romantic trips, making use of novels or erotic films to get inspired and also buy sex toys or suggestive lingerie.
2. Stress and anxiety
Work, social or family demands and current life rhythms are true generators of stress and anxiety for many people in various areas of their lives and this state of high activation for long periods can also affect relationships in the couple, because it generates a significant psychological wear.
A stressful work life, permanent tiredness, constant worry or anguish are themost common causes of loss of sexual desire and abandonment of intimate relationships for many couples. Attention is anchored in worries and a trickle appears that leads to prioritizing only the urgent, and therefore sexual desire decreases.
This situation translates, in turn, into feelings of guilt for the stressed person or for both members of the couple, and in greater discomfort, anguish or fatigue, which ends up generating a vicious circle. In these cases, it is advisable to demand less in the day to day both at work and personally, learn and incorporate relaxation strategies and find time to improve life as a couple and sexual relations, among other things because these contribute to reduce stress.
3. Physical illnesses
In times of illness it is common for people’s lives to change a lot, and this also affects the field of sexuality. Any health problemcan affect the normal functioning of intimate life as a couple, whether metabolic or chronic diseases.
4. Medications
Similarly, the consumption of medications associated with these diseases or other problems can also negatively influence the person’s sexual desire. Many drugs have active ingredients thatostensibly alter the libido levels ofthose who take them.
5. Unhealthy lifestyle habits
Similarly, there are lifestyle habits that sustained over time can also have an effect on the sexual desire of the couple. Excessive and frequent consumption of alcohol and drugs, obesity, sedentary lifestyle andlack of physical exercise are negative habits that are usually associatedwith the loss of sexual desire and the decrease in sexual activity with the partner, since the body carries a series of health problems, and the body prioritizes the compensation of these.
6. Hormonal changes
Hormonal alterations and neuroendocrine problems can also be responsible for the loss of sexual desire in the couple. Keep in mind that this isnot limited to the menstrual cycle, and is a problem that can affect both women and men.
Are you looking for psychological support?
If you are going through a bad time when it comes to your intimate relationships and how you manage your emotions and your life habits, contact me. I am a psychologist specialized in the cognitive-behavioral intervention model, and I offer help to both individuals and couples, both in my practice and online by video call.
To the classic question “what do you do?” I always answer “basically I am a psychologist”. In fact, my academic training has revolved around the psychology of development, education and community, a field of study influenced my volunteer activities, as well as my first work experiences in personal services.
