We show you the questions that will help you know more about each other when you are meeting someone and that will strengthen your bond.
You must avoid talking about time and work (that’s what elevators are for) and you must ask questions that give a lot of play, that encourage reflection and try to connect with your interlocutor. Therefore, the more open a question is, the more information you will learn, so try to formulate them in a relaxed way. And so you don’t have to think too much, we leave you a sample of the questions you can ask.
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Questions to get to know someone better
We leave you a sample of questions that can help you break the ice and investigate more about the life and personality of whoever you are knowing. Use them sparingly and let yourself be guided by your instinct.
1. What’s the first thing you notice about a person?
This question can give us clues about what attracts you most about someone. Ideal if we have some romantic interest towards that person we want to know more.
2. If you had a time machine, would you travel to the future or the past?
With this question you can deduce if you prefer novelty and excitement towards an unknown future or if on the contrary you have more historical concerns and prefer a trip to the past. In addition, it can give you an idea of whether this is a nostalgic person or a person more open to change.
3. How wrong do people who don’t know you yet judge you?
Sometimes, the image we project towards other people has nothing to do with the real one and it is curious to see how the person responds to the false perceptions they have of him.
4. Where in the world would you like to live?
With this approach you will find out what lifestyle he would like to lead. Maybe you would like to lead a quiet life in the countryside or a busy life in a big city. You may feel passion for warm climates full of colors and experiences or, on the contrary, prefer cold countries and imagine yourself inside a house with your loved ones making cookies.
5. Are you more of a dog or cat?
It is true that the answer to this question will depend in part on the personal tastes and experiences that the person may have had with that particular animal, but it is said that people who prefer cats value freedom over appreciation and affection. On the other hand, those who like dogs more, tend to appreciate kindness and loyalty more.
6. What bothers you most about a person?
This question gives us information about their hobbies or what their most important values are in a relationship or friendship.
7. If you could have one superpower, which one would you have?
Although it sounds fanciful and a bit absurd, this question will let you know the hidden desires of the person and tell you a lot about their personality.
8. When you were little, what did you want to be when you grew up?
Usually, childhood is usually a very beautiful time and that question will bring up your best memories. It is endearing to remember those dreams you have when you are a child.
9. Which historical figure would you like to make coffee with?
This question will allow you to discover what their interest is in historical topics and you will be able to know who they admire and know a little more about their way of thinking.
10. If you could be an animal, what would you be?
The answer to this question will help you to know what are the primordial values that person has, his personality and his defects.
11. What reasons did your parents have for giving you that name you have?
Behind every name there is a story to know. Sometimes it can be interesting to know what reasons parents had for choosing one name or another.
12. What is the strangest object in your house?
This question may not help you to know his personality but it will be useful to tell you a trip to a distant country or some funny anecdote.
13. Could you forgive an infidelity?
His answers will give you clues as to whether he is a spiteful person, if he has a hard time forgiving or if he is a person who values himself very much and is clear about his limits.
14. What kind of sense of humor do you have?
Knowing what kind of humor he has (ironic, black, absurd, etc.) will tell you a lot about the person and help you connect better with him and understand his way of thinking.
15. What motivation moves your life?
It may be a bit of an intense question but it will help you get to know the person in depth. It may be that money is your main motivation, family, friends or being a recognized person.
16. What part of your body do you like the most?
It is an easy-to-interpret question in which he will tell you the physical attribute of which he is most proud. When you have more confidence you can ask him the part he likes least.
17. What is your biggest fear?
It is a very personal question and requires some confidence but it can reveal a lot of information about your personality. You will be able to glimpse part of their phobias and you will be able to find out if they give more weight to the more abstract fears such as death or material ones such as spiders or falling into ruin.
18. Which people do you find especially attractive?
With this question we will be able to find out which are the personal characteristics that he values most.
19. What kind of music do you like to dance to?
Knowing what kind of dance you like will give us an idea of whether you are an introvert or extrovert. Extroverted people usually like those types of dance that are performed as a couple or in a group, while introverts will take time to answer this question and may answer some genre that is not very danceable.
20. What childhood memories are you most fond of?
This question will help us create a relaxed and trusting space and will allow us to know what its scale of values is. In addition, it will allow us to discover in what environment he grew up.
21. Are you one of those who would sacrifice the life of one person to save a hundred?
This question will give you clues if it is a more emotional or rational person, because emotional people tend to make shorter-term decisions and more thoughtful people tend to project their ideas more into the future (in this case they will prefer to kill one person to save a hundred).
22. What was the last lie you told?
It is important to pose this question in a fun way, because some people do not feel comfortable answering this kind of thing. If the deception they reveal to you is inconsequential or a white lie, it may be that you are in front of a very honest person.
23. Would you like to have children?
This intimate question will allow you to glimpse their plans for the future.
24. Do you consider yourself a superstitious person?
Knowing if the person believes in paranormal phenomena is something that gives us information about their way of thinking and perceiving the world around them.
25. If you could learn to do something new, what would you choose?
It is a very good question that allows us to get to know someone better because it explains what their aspirations are in life.
26. If you could change the world, what would you change?
He will show you what his ideal world would be like and what his ideas are to achieve it.
27. What do you see yourself in ten years?
The answer to this question can help you generate other questions since it is very uncertain.
28. What food would you eat without getting tired?
Thanks to this question we can find out your gastronomic tastes and if you are a person who likes to take care of your diet.
29. If you were granted only one wish, what would you like to ask for?
This question will allow you to know what their priorities are and what their greatest desire is.
30. What is your most hidden fantasy?
Most people keep fantasies that have not been told. If you get him to reveal it to you, it will mean that you have earned his trust.
31. What would you do if you were mugged on the street?
These answers are usually funny and you can see if he reacts well under pressure.
32. What would you do if tomorrow you win the lottery?
The person will give you one of the most honest answers about what they would do if they had no monetary limit. Some might spend their money on unnecessary things while others would buy a house for their parents.
33. Do you hate any songs?
We all hate a song and sharing it can sometimes be fun.
34. What things about the future would you like to see clearly?
The answer to this question will make you see what things worry you most and which you wish you had under control.
35. What’s the last book you’ve read?
With this question you will find out if he likes to read and you will get to know what things he is passionate about.
36. Do you have anyguilty pleasure?
Aguilty pleasureis something like a movie, TV series, or anything you like to do that embarrasses you. With this question you will increase confidence with the other person and will let you know if it is a person who is easily embarrassed.
37. If you could have a job for the rest of your life, which one would you choose?
Your ideal job can tell us what you are good at and what your greatest vital desires are.
38. What would you say characterizes you?
This question gives us signs of how he perceives himself and what his singularities are.
39. What is the virtue you value most?
It can be honesty, empathy or solidarity or many others, but it will help you better understand their scale of values.
40. What is your greatest eccentricity?
Everyone has a strange trait that defines them and it is an opportunity to know some of these more hidden characteristics.
41. What is your most precious material asset?
There are objects that have more value than others, either because it was something that took a lot of work to get or because it has a lot of personal value.
42. What fictional character do you identify with and why?
This ice-breaking question helps generate an image without anyone getting caught up in their own ego.
43. How is your relationship with your family?
There are people who are closer to their family than others. Knowing how they relate to the family can give you a lot of information about the person. In addition, what happens to the family can have a big effect on relationships.
44. How do you handle finances?
Asking about these topics will not only let you know if you spend too much or too little, but it’s also a good indicator of how you manage your life in general.
45. What do you need to do during periods of stress?
Alomejor calls someone to vent or decides to spend time just thinking. However, it will let you know what they expect from people close to you during difficult times.
46. Who is your biggest influence?
This question can give you an idea of what are the most important values of a person. For example, if he names your mother, he may value responsibility and family.
47. Do you believe in karma?
This is a good question because it indirectly signals whether it believes its actions have consequences.
48. What’s the craziest thing you’ve ever done in your life?
This question will help us know what emotions that person wants in their life. It can be a person with a rebellious spirit or who prefers the most stable situations and with few surprises.
49. Where would your ideal vacation be?
Although it is a very classic question, with it we can know what attitudes the other person has towards life. For example, it may be that someone prefers a quiet vacation in contrast to a day to day with too much activity.
50. Do you play any sports?
Sport can be a very interesting alternative in what topics of conversation is about, in addition, it is easy to find common ground.
51. Do you have a favorite color?
It can tell us a lot about his personality and his tastes. Obligatory question in the games to get to know each other.
52. Are you a believer?
Although it may seem like a compromising question, religion is a topic that must be touched on if we really want to know someone.
53. Do you think money gives happiness?
Knowing a new opinion on such a controversial topic is always interesting.
54. Do you like to party?
It is good to know if someone is compatible with our hobbies and of vital importance if we like to party a lot.
55. Are you interested in fashion?
It can become a fun question if we are meeting someone particularly eccentric or with similar tastes to ours.
56. What kind of person would you be afraid of?
This type of question will let you know the kind of attitudes and personalities you tend to avoid when you relate.
57. What would an ideal day look like for you?
With your answers we will find out how you like to spend time and what activities you choose to have fun.
58. What’s the most beautiful thing you’ve ever done for love?
Although she is a little committed, she will give you a lot of information about her way of liking. You can find out if it is a pragmatic and cold person or a romantic person.
59. What’s the weirdest thing you know how to do?
Asking about one’s abilities doesn’t turn out to be so intimate and is something we can raise even if we’ve just met someone.
60. What do you miss about your childhood?
This question will allow you to know the most innocent side of the other person and create an atmosphere of comfort and warmth.
To the classic question “what do you do?” I always answer “basically I am a psychologist”. In fact, my academic training has revolved around the psychology of development, education and community, a field of study influenced my volunteer activities, as well as my first work experiences in personal services.
